This August my wife and I will celebrate our 12th anniversary. That means we have been married long enough that she doesn’t listen to my whining or complaining. She doesn’t give me sympathy if I’m sick and doesn’t care if I don’t like the drapes. I am not sure when couples pass the point of listening to whining, but I will guess it was around the sixth or seventh year…or maybe she never actually cared. Even though wives don’t listen to whining they do hear it, and eventually they force their spouses into action. That is why quite often I will be face to face to a stubborn husband who says the words that every man eventually says: “I don’t want to be here but my wife made me come”.
When I was a recent graduate I hated those words. It intimidated me because I took it to mean that he wasn’t going to cooperate or give me a chance. After a few cool experiences from these types of patients I learned to love these situations. The patient was in my office because they wanted something fixed. If they truly didn’t believe that I could help they wouldn’t be here. Deep inside there is a hope that this can somehow get better.
As we proceed through the new patient encounter I become much like Androclus from the old fable. Since most of you don’t want to google that name, I’ll just tell you that Androclus was a Roman slave that escaped into a cave. He was frightened to realize that he shared the cave with an angry and grumpy lion. Androclus realized that the lion was not angry, but was suffering from a thorn in his paw. After Androclus removed the thorn the lion became docile and friendly. These visits most often result in once grumpy patients becoming friendly and loyal. The stubborn husband becomes the one prodding his wife to make her appointments so that she will also quit her whining.
I’ve talked in the past about how pain changes people. It can be depressing and overwhelming at times. The great thing about chiropractic care is that it doesn’t matter if you believe it will help or you don’t. This is not Tinker Bell’s fairy dust helping you fly to Neverland. It is a researched treatment that has been shown to be effective. And not only is it effective but it has been shown to reduce the chance of surgery and abuse of medication.
What does this all mean? It means that if you are a spouse that is tired of hearing your Hunny Bun or Sugar Pie complain, you should make an appointment for them to feel better. Their back pain (or whatever pain) going away will help that pain in your neck that you get from hearing their whining.
-Dr. Aaron England